What is Bullying?
Bullying happens when there is an imbalance of power. When someone purposely and repeatedly says or does hurtful things to someone else. Bullying can occur one on one or in a group(s) of people. There are many different form of bullying:
- Physical bullying
(using your body or objects to cause harm). Includes hitting, punching, kicking, spitting or breaking someone else’s belongings.
- Verbal bullying
(using words to hurt someone). Includes name calling, put downs, threats and teasing.
- Social bullying
(using your friends and relationships to hurt someone). Includes spreading rumours, gossiping, excluding others from a group or making others look foolish or unintelligent. This form of bullying is most common among girls.
- Cyber bullying
Involves the use of communication technologies (social media, texting, internet) to intimidate or harass others.
Definition provided by: http://www.rcmp-grc.gc.ca
It has been an issue forever. But why does it seem like the issue is getting worse? Children and teens are beginning to bully/be bullied so much earlier in life. It is having huge effects on the young population. Here are some alarming statistics about bullying from: http://www.cihr-irsc.gc.ca/
- Canada is the 9th highest rate of bullying in 13 year olds
- At least 1 in 3 teen students in Canada have reported being bullied
- 47% of Canadian parents report having a child that has been a victim of bullying
- Bullying increases the risk of suicidal ideas in youth
- Girls are more likely to experience online bullying than boys
When people are bullied, the effects can last a lifetime. It can cause a lot of issues for children into adult life. The effects can happen to both the individual or group that is bullying. As well as, the individual or group being bullied. Innocent bystanders are also at risk of being effected negatively.
Being bullied at any age can cause many negative effects both mentally and physically such as:
- Illness (kids may get stomachaches, headaches or begin faking sick)
- Desire to skip school/academic decline
- Physical abuse (punching, hitting, kicking etc.)
- Higher risk of suicidal ideation/self-harm
- Fear of not being good enough
- Low self-esteem
- Higher chance of bullying others later on in life
The negative effects don’t only harm the bullied but the person/people doing the bullying as well. The kids/teens who are the bully’s may have issues at home or school that they are not dealing with properly. It can be a way for them to feel in control. Some negative effects of are:
- Increased risk of substance abuse
- Academic decline (suspension, behaviour issues etc.)
- Issues maintaining relationships
- Abuse in later life
- Increased risk of criminal behaviour
- Low self-esteem
For kids/teens that are seeing bullying occur, it can be hard to know if they should tell someone or not. They do not want to feel like a “tattletale” in fear of being bullied themselves. This is seen a lot in groups. This can cause:
- Desire to skip school (avoidance)
- May start bullying others just to fit in with a certain group or clique
- Fear of being bullied
If you are concerned that your child/teen is being bullied contact us to see how we can help. 705-735-9107